Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Fascinated By Polyamory

I'll betcha a bundle that Don Teague is gonna be lambasted by mediocre people who are "affronted" by the reasonableness of the tone in his article about the men and women who live on the YFZ ranch in Texas.

I mean, he makes them sound like regular people! How dare he not portray them with horns and cloven hooves!

About the only thing I almost don't understand about them is their avoiding of the color red. Personally, I love red! It's almost the only color I wear! Pink, on the other hand, is a foul color, and not allowed into my house.

6 Comments:

Blogger Karen said...

Red is my power color. I love pink, too, though.

I'll comment on the polygamy thing when I'm not on vacation. We're in AZ right now. Will have many photos when I return.

Thursday, April 24, 2008 1:10:00 PM  
Blogger Karen said...

Red is my power color. I love pink, too, though.

I'll comment on the polygamy thing when I'm not on vacation. We're in AZ right now. Will have many photos when I return.

Thursday, April 24, 2008 1:10:00 PM  
Blogger dez said...

I think there are still some states where the age of marital consent (with parents' permission) is twelve. Some of us today have a hard time with that idea, but obviously our society considered that okay back then.

So, it seems that our moral standards change over time. Some might say that we are getting worse, others say we are becoming more enlightened. It can be confusing.

I can understand the attraction of groups like the FLDS - there is a simplicity in their moral standard that could appeal to many people.

The whole multiple wives thing is, of course, a big selling point to the males of the community. But there is also something there for the women - minding the children and doing housework is easier when you have help, and there must be a sisterhood-like bond that many would find comforting.

It goes back to when we were all living in stone-age hunter-gatherer villages. The men would go out and hunt, sometimes for days or weeks before returning. They shared a bond of comradeship and danger, kept somewhat distant by the necessity of keeping silent during the hunt.

The women in the village were much more interactive and social - working together to do all the daily tasks that keep a village functioning. The bond of sisterhood is a different thing than the silent bond of the hunters - more active and sharing of thoughts and emotions. Also more nurturing, since theirs was the task of caring for the children and domestic animals.

These behavior patterns evolved over millions of years, and I believe they are still hard-wired into most of us.

I'm not saying I approve of the FLDS, and you know I'm not a big fan of religion. I'm just saying I see why it could appeal to some people.

Friday, April 25, 2008 12:22:00 PM  
Blogger Chimera said...

I can also see the appeal, Dez, although it's probably not my cuppa. Too many people around me all the time will send me screaming into the night with an axe. And kids drive me right up a wall.

But chacun a son gout, eh? I know people for whom the group arrangement works. They're healthy, they're happy, and who am I to mess with their choices?

But I do notice that people tend to think of the men's liking it because of the sex and women's liking it because of the companionship. I've never seen anyone express it the other way around. Most people still tend to think of other people as a herd to be dominated by the strongest male, and the females as nurturers of the young.

Saturday, April 26, 2008 9:26:00 AM  
Blogger the rev. paperboy said...

I don't think its the polygamy that bothers people so much as the 14 year old brides forced to marry and become impregnated by old men.
Group marriage arrangements? Well, whatever works for all concerned, consenting adults, govt has no business in the bedrooms of the nation and all that. Children being forced to marry and bear children ---eh, not so much.

And what the hell is up with the Little House on the Prarie wardrobe? I thought these were breakaway Mormons, not old-order Mennonites?

Tuesday, April 29, 2008 2:41:00 AM  
Blogger Chimera said...

I've also noticed that almost everyone tends to focus on the youth of the women/wives compared to the men. Even in instances where the women are clearly about the same age as the men, and all concerned are clearly consenting adults, people who want to disapprove tend to focus on "children."

It's an emotional ploy, and it tends to skew the thought patterns of anyone about to say, "Who cares?" Where children are concerned, most people stop thinking. They just react. They've been taught to do that since they were children, themselves. You can't find a better tool for misdirection of the subject than, "Think of the children."

I saw the wardrobe, Rev. Lotsa pastels. Different colors for the same style/pattern of dress. They get cloth in bulk at bargain prices and make their own? It would save money, and who do they have to please but themselves?

Tuesday, April 29, 2008 11:03:00 AM  

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